Oh, wow! I think I just found the most beautiful illustration for the "purpose" of my blog! Normally one creates a "mission statement" at the beginning of an undertaking, so in a way, this should have been at the beginning of my blog. But in the spirit of "better late than never", here is my mission statement now.
I am currently reading a marvelous book called "Seven Days In Utopia - Golf's sacred journey" written by David L. Cook, PhD. Allow me to quote something he wrote on page 40 and if it doesn't make much sense to you (probably because you don't play golf) just bear with me for a little while.
"There is no model swing in this business, no pat answers. Each person must develop a blueprint for his swing and style of play. He must have such a conviction for the manner in which it is done that there are no chinks in the armor when facing the toughest foe on tour. The toughest challenge you will face is not necessarily the golf course, or even your competitor's scores. Your toughest foe will be the casual comment offered up by a fellow player or teacher about how you should be doing it. When I ask you about any part of your game, I want a solid answer, and I want to hear conviction in your voice. If you don't have a solid answer, I'll send you to the oak to write about it. I deeply believe that in writing our thoughts unseen wisdom rises to the occasion. I am not here to improve your swing; my purpose is to help you find your game. That is exactly what I intend to do."
That's it! That's exactly it! To all my fellow moms out there, here is my mission statement for my blog, just in case you wondered why I write:
There is no specific model in motherhood, no pat answers either. Each mom must develop a blueprint for her own family and her own style of mothering them. She must have such a conviction for the manner in which it is done that there are no cracks in her armor when facing the toughest foe on her journey. The toughest challenge we will face is not necessarily life itself, or even the way other mother's score. Our toughest foe will be the casual comment offered up by a fellow mother or teacher about how you should be doing it. I cannot ask you about any part of your game (such is the nature of a blog), but I encourage you to find a solid stance and conviction that you ARE A GOOD MOM in your own way. If you don't have such a stance or conviction, I recommend you take more quiet time and write about it until you do. I deeply believe that in writing our thoughts, unseen wisdom rises to the occasion. I see that on a daily basis in my own life. So, mom, I am not here to try and improve your mothering skills, I wouldn't be qualified to even try. My purpose is to help you find your game, your mothering style, hoping that this will improve the way that you cope with whatever is coming your way today. That is exactly what I intend to do!
So here it is. That's my mission statement. Isn't that exactly what we need? Less "well meant comments" and more help finding our own way? This is not to say that we can't learn from each other. But your style is your style and and well meant comments only too often end up leaving you feeling guilty and drained. I am still trying to find my own game, but in the process, I would be honored to help you find yours!
HAPPY MOTHERING MOM, HANG IN THERE TODAY!
(Thank you to David L. Cook's work which I have used or paraphrased for this post.)
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